Is the penis size important for pleasant sex?

Everyday family life in the corona crisis

Baby, toddler age, preschool age

The smaller children are, the more they live according to the principles of the momentary state of mind. Everything that is beautiful or unpleasant at the moment is experienced as central. The ability to wait, to postpone needs is learned slowly in the years before school entry based on social rules.
With regard to sexuality, too, young children apply the pleasure principle of the moment:
We touch our own sexual organ when it is perceived as pleasant, social rules are usually ignored in toddlerhood.

Learning to perceive physical and emotional limits - cornerstones of prevention


By exploring its own body, the child gets to know itself, its own body limits and its own sexual organ. Being naked, being allowed to touch, experiencing the pleasant touch of others - all of this is essential for getting to know your own body.
Touching the body itself also has other positive effects: parts of the body that are often touched with one's own hands are valued more and viewed more positively. This is of great importance for learning to treat one's own sexual organ in an appreciative manner.
In terms of preventing sexual violence, this aspect is very important:
I only like to protect and care for what I value.


On an emotional level, children can perceive moods very intensely - the moods that relate to themselves, as well as the moods among each other.
Children feel very clearly whether adults act according to their own emotional limits or not. Emotional border crossings are usually not recognizable from the outside, but are noticeable for sensitive people. The perception of one's own feelings and the respect for these feelings is a learning process that starts very early.
For sex education this means: Children learn to perceive emotional limits primarily through the noticeable role model. The better adults can perceive their own feelings, the more coherently the perceptible emotion fits together with the action, the more transparently perceptions are dealt with, the more children are supported in their emotional competence development.

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