I am a crossdresser

Question:
I am now 27 years old and have enjoyed wearing lingerie for the past 10 years. I especially like to wear women's satin briefs when I sleep with a woman. I really enjoy it and my girlfriend doesn't have any problems with it either.
I would like to know why I was able to become a transvestite. Can someone tell me why I like to wear women's clothes?

I would also like to know how many men are like me? (I'm not gay by the way). What else can you tell me about CrossDressing?

Answer:
Nobody knows exactly what causes men in particular to become transvestites. There are probably as many reasons for this as there are men who like to wear women's clothing.

"There are some theories," says sex educator Dr. Michael Carrera, author of "Sexuality: the facts, the actions of your feelings", "But note that they are nothing more than theories ... there is no clear evidence".

Some general theories

His view is, for example, that distant, disinterested fathers and loveless mothers can influence a boy towards transvestism when he grows up.

Another psychoanalytic theory is that men wear women's clothes to rid themselves of castration fear.
In agreement with this theory, a man often puts on women's clothing as a result of unconscious castration fears when he is first confronted with the anatomical differences between the sexes.

Comments from Dr. Milton E. Jucovy of the New York Psychoanalytic Institute: "A more intense and dramatic form can be seen in the man who thinks that by wearing feminine underwear he can maintain his strength and thereby develop back to a level of identification with a woman with a penis ".

Dr. Jucovy further suggests that if wearing women's clothing alleviates fears, it is not only practiced in sexual situations, but also in other fearful situations.

Even little boys wear girls' clothes

Psychiatrist David W. Krueger, director of the Baylor Psychiatric Clinic in Houston, found that in some cases of transvestism, development began by the age of 2 or 3. Usually this behavior was initiated by the mother or another female family member and reinforced during the child's pre-school years.

Most of the others started wearing female clothing in adolescence.

Most of them are straight

Most transvestites, like you, are straight.
One skilled in the art defines transvestism as "behavior in which a man becomes genitally sexually aroused while wearing female clothing".

Transvestism is viewed as a kind of fetish: "A transvestite does not normally achieve full sexual and emotional satisfaction without the use of one or more clothing items of the opposite sex." says Dr. Carrera.
Most medical professionals consider transvestism to be a harmless activity. When a transvestite seeks therapy, the primary goal should be to reduce guilt and discomfort rather than to find the root cause of the problem. Attempts to cure transvestism have rarely met with success.

They are usually responsible citizens

Most of the men who wear women's clothing are responsible citizens who are no different from the rest of the population.

Dr. Krueger: "Transvestism occurs primarily among heterosexual, not unmanly, married men, many of whom also have children. Most of them work and have interests that are typically masculine."

How many transvestites are there?

Since most women wear clothes only in private, it is difficult to reliably determine how many transvestites there are.

Dr. Wardell Pomeroy, one of Kinsey's research team, has estimated that there are a million transvestites in America alone. Dr. Krueger estimates that 1 to 3 percent of the population engages in fetishistic cross-dressing.

Most wear feminine clothing in their privacy

Most men who wear women's clothing do so in the privacy of their home.

Dr. Krueger says 90 percent of transvestites wear female clothing at home (or under their men's clothing).
Only a small minority tries to constantly appear as a woman with the help of makeup, wigs and a full female wardrobe. (Transvestites need to be distinguished from transsexuals who want to change sex.)

How a partner can feel

"Many transvestites involve their wives in wearing feminine clothing." say sex researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnsons.

"With an understanding partner, wearing female clothing can become a special topic of sexual interaction."

On the other hand, wearing a man's feminine clothes can cause serious problems in the relationship.

"Many women who are married to transvestites have problems accepting a husband who says he has to dress women." comments Dr. Carrera.

"It is not normal in our society for a man to wear women's clothing." he says.
Another problem is that many people automatically (and mistakenly) associate transvestism with homosexuality.
"Transvestism can easily destroy relationships and families."

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Translation: © 1999/2001, Agnes